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    <pubDate>Wed, 27 Jan 2010 11:39:24 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>&quot;Up and Away&quot; A Wonderful Children's Concert - Palm Beach Atlantic University -Introduce children to the sights and sounds of the symphony Orchestra</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3474,3474#msg-3474</link>
      <author>Binghac</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Palm Beach Atlantic University's presents &quot;Up and Away&quot; a wonderful children’s concert  - Featuring the PBA Symphony, PBA Dance Ensemble and students in the University's Preparatory Department.  The concert will feature a variety of works to introduce children to the sights and sounds of the symphony Orchestra followed by a dance performance outdoors.  
  Works include Beethoven’s Symphony No. 5, Jimmy Webb’s Up, Up and Away, Sousa’s Stars and Stripes Forever and Handel’s Music for the Royal Fireworks.   
10:00a.m. DeSantis Family Chapel, 300 Okeechobee Blvd., / Warren Library Plaza, West Palm Beach.  Free; Complimentary Tickets Required.  Ticket Central 561-803-2970 or ticketcentral@pba.edu
Co-sponsored by the Junior League of the Palm Beaches]]></description>
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      <pubDate>Wed, 27 Jan 2010 11:39:24 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>The Quest for Truth in Advertising: Is Campbell's Off Its Noodle?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3470,3470#msg-3470</link>
      <author>Mike Tighe</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Finding it hard to believe ::othat a can of Campbell's Chicken Noodle Soup has the 32 feet of noodles advertised, I HAD to test it myself.:S

The results: http://grandfatherclause.blogspot.com/2009/12/mr-monk-used-my-noodle-on-this.html

I guess I've got to give Campbell's a thumbs up. (tu)

Feel free to count your own and weigh in.

Cheers:)-D

Have an Uhm-MMM good day.]]></description>
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      <pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:41:54 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Kids Yoga in Palm Beach Gardens and Jupiter!</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3465,3465#msg-3465</link>
      <author>tanyogini</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Yoga Fun and games! Kids learn the fundamentals of yoga alignment and execution of poses in an encouraging, non-competitive atmosphere. Stories for character building illustrate moral lessons such as peace, kindness, and compassionwhile embracing creativity, literacy and oral and listening skills. 

Now registering for Palm Beach Gardens class beginning Tuesday, January 5th at the Burns Road Recreation Center. Ages 4-8. Tuesdays 5:00-5:45. 
Drop in $8/ $7 PBG residents BRRC (561) 630-1100 or www.pbgfl.com. 

Jupiter Classes are held at the Loxahatchee River Center the first and third Thursday of each month at 1:30 pm. Ages 3 and up. 
$5 donation to the River Center 

805 N. US Highway 1 
Jupiter, FL 33477 
(561) 743-7123 
[www.loxahatcheeriver.org]]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:20:42 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Give Your Child The Gift Of Manners&quot;</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3456,3456#msg-3456</link>
      <author>Etiquette Touch</author>
      <description><![CDATA[&quot;Give Your Child The Gift Of Manners&quot;
Posted by: Etiquette Touch (IP Logged)
Date: October 05, 2009 09:39AM

&quot;Give Your Child The Gift Of Manners&quot; 
Posted by: Etiquette Touch 
Date: 11/28/2009 08:27AM 

Now Enrolling for our &quot;Dining With Elegance&quot; classes 
Perfect for the Holiday Season! 

Instructional will include, Introductions ~ Proper Posture ~ Utensil Placement ~ Party Manners ~ Setting a Formal Place Setting and Table ~ Proper Use of the Napkin ~ Eating Most Difficult Foods ~ Proper Holding of Dining Utensils ~ Appropriate Mealtime Conversation ~ American &amp; Continental Eating Styles ~ Navigating the Place Setting ~ RSVP ~ Thank You Note ~ The Meal Experience ~ Dining Do and Don'ts 

Tweens and Teens 

Who: Children (ages 8-18) 
Date: Saturday, December 19, 2009 
Time: 10:00 am - 1:00 pm 
Investment:$75.00 per child includes instructional classes, handouts, dinner, taxes and gratuities $65.00 each for two or more siblings 

Early Registration before December 12, 2009, investment price is $65.00 

Classes will take place at the 
Palm Beach Gardens Marriott 
4000 RCA Boulevard 
Palm Beach Gardens, Florida 33410 

Reservations can be made by calling (561) 827-8061 
visit at http://www.theetiquettetouch.com] or email at info@theetiquettetouch.com 

Carolyn Powery, MS, CFLE, 
Certified Etiquette Consultant 
The Etiquette Touch Charm School LLC]]></description>
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      <pubDate>Sat, 28 Nov 2009 08:56:28 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: ADD/ADHD Teen</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,188,3443#msg-3443</link>
      <author>fhaye</author>
      <description><![CDATA[A great idea Next Step! Actually music could be one of the possible thing to do for a child with ADD ADHD. A non-drug treatment that could be introduced to some parents having a problem with an ADD ADHD children.

Practically meds could give side effect and ease the pain not to eliminate the disorder. But don't let your child be dependent on drugs all of his/her life. There are treatment without the use of meds.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:48:32 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Sex ed, including uh, well, you wouldn't believe it, for 5-year-olds?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3384,3384#msg-3384</link>
      <author>Mike Tighe</author>
      <description><![CDATA[::o It's APPALLING that a U.N. agency insists that 5-year-olds need to know about sex, let alone about mas ... uh, well, mastur ... ummmmm, oh, HECK, it's too embarrassing to bring up. 8-)

After all, they could go BLIND!

Think I'm kiddin? Check it out at 

grandfatherclause.blogspot.com

Might make you hoppin' mad. X(]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sun, 13 Sep 2009 02:50:30 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>how do I get my 15-year-old daughter to wear sunscreen?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3380,3380#msg-3380</link>
      <author>miamimom</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Recently my daugher, Jenny, is desperate for a tan. When she was younger it was easy to get her to use sunscreen because we were always together at the beach. Now that she's older, she goes to the beach with her friends and doesn't use it at all. We've had a couple of blow-out fights on the subject, and I was wondering if any other moms/daughters are going through this. Is there a sunscreen she can use that will allow her to get a tan but keep her protected from cancer and the like?]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 08 Sep 2009 12:44:53 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Learn ways to stop temper tantrums with Itsy Bitsy Yoga</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3250,3250#msg-3250</link>
      <author>kaylawillson</author>
      <description><![CDATA[The Tykes class (ages 2-5) teaches parents to help prevent temper tantrums in their children, and helps little ones learn to calm themselves. Find out more at http://www.itsybitsyyoga-palmbeaches.com/]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:09:48 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: How Can I Help?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2422,3218#msg-3218</link>
      <author>kelly</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Did you start your business? I was also looking to start some type of organization or &quot;awareness program&quot; to make parents aware of children going through trauma or any situation at school or home. My daughter went through  hitting abuse at school from her teacher and never told me until 3 months later.. I knew something was going on but never the proof. Now I have the proof and still nothing can get done. Great system!!I took her out of the situation (even before I knew she was getting hit.) I would like to let parents know to listen to their children even when they don't talk. Children are afraid but everything always goes towards parent separation anxiety. Thank god I listened to my gut. Let me know how your business goes or if I can help in any way.
thanks]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 04 Jun 2009 10:30:21 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Help Me !!!!!!!</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3077,3093#msg-3093</link>
      <author>eigram120</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Girl, 
Divorce the loser, Get legal child support, move on and be happy!]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 03 Apr 2009 15:30:50 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: im losing it</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,772,3091#msg-3091</link>
      <author>galyex</author>
      <description><![CDATA[hmmm try to stretch more your patience. and talk to your step son heartily. dont let your other children see and hear whenever you are fighting. they might follow it. try to understand him.and avoid snapping.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:31:34 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Boredom</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,220,3090#msg-3090</link>
      <author>galyex</author>
      <description><![CDATA[hmmm, i think at first you should have trained your kid about the toys thingy. not to spoiled them. there are also other ways on how to entertain your kid aside from playing toys. like involving them in sports.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:24:22 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Stop Nail Biting for Children</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3089,3089#msg-3089</link>
      <author>galyex</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Tips on How To Stop Children in Nail Biting

    * - The first step should be to talk it with your child. Ask about possible reasons that may lead to this habit.

    * - Give the example. My wife helped me with this: as she found our daughter biting her nails she told her how beautiful everyone would think she is with nice nails. NOTE: Do this in a friendly positive way.

    * - Give them an alternate way to deal with anxiety - without then noticing it. If you catch your child starting to bite their nails, give him or her another thing to do. Distraction is the key, and learning new ways to cope with anxiety.

    * Don’t punish. As I said this means reinforcing the habit.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:18:06 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Help Me !!!!!!!</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,3077,3077#msg-3077</link>
      <author>buildabear</author>
      <description><![CDATA[I can not decide to legal separate or divorce I can not stand the dude I am currently married but he kicked us out last year I don't get child support we been in Florida coming a year in May he lives in luxury in NC have heard rumors he is engaged daughter seen ring on girlfriends finger her name is Lard A$$ she's gross smokes and drinks he turn into white trash that lives in a nice house unless he moved in with Lard A$$ I need some legal aide advice I have no job no money and need free legal aide nobody will touch me unless I pay them any suggestions?]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:49:52 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Helping toddlers learn patience</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2914,2914#msg-2914</link>
      <author>SingingSusan</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Here's something that can help develop patience in your toddler.  Next time you bake cookies, involve your toddler every step of the way.  Have him or her help you set the timer before putting them in the oven.  While they are baking, talk with the toddler about what it means to wait for something, and how wonderful the results of waiting can be.  They may tell you how hard it is to wait for the cookies.  This gives you a great opportunity to talk about the reasons for waiting, and why we all learn to do this due to the rewards at the end of 15 or 20 minutes.  Then, next time they need to wait with you at the checkout in the grocery store, or any type of delay, you can compare it to the cookies and the concept becomes very real to the child.  You just might find they can handle waiting better, and they can learn from you to develop their own kind of patience.

From Susan Fonger of Susan's Musikgarten.

Find more tips on my blog at http://susansmusik.blogspot.com

Find out about Musikgarten on my site
www.SingingSusan.com]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 13 Feb 2009 22:10:37 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Teachers and discipline</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,1003,2669#msg-2669</link>
      <author>MusicalMommy!</author>
      <description><![CDATA[With love....:)]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sat, 27 Dec 2008 01:54:06 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Anyone know more details about the Wendy Portillo case?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,1003,2594#msg-2594</link>
      <author>Key Lime Pie</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Perhaps you've read the recent article &amp; editorial about Wendy Portillo, the teacher who found herself in such trouble for polling her class about their feelings towards a disruptive classmate.  It seems that public opinion is still hard against her, and the mother of the boy wants the teacher fired (from a cannon, it seems).  However, while the school board is recommending a harsh punishment (unpaid leave &amp; more) they haven't completely terminated her (due to her unblemished 12-year teaching record &amp; their conclusion that the incident wasn't intended to be malicious).

This forum is the only place where I've read any more information about this case other than emotional rantings based mostly on hearsay and scanty details, condemning this teacher's actions.  (Read the above posts if you haven't already)  Has anyone here learned any more actual factual information?

I would very much like to hear from this teacher (who, unfortunately for her, has had to remain silent publically pending her investigation) and also from the families of the other children in this classroom.  Did they feel outrage or relief over this incident?  Did they say &quot;Oh poor boy, how dare she!&quot; or &quot;Sheesh!  It's about time my kid's class got a break!&quot;

You don't have to be a teacher to know how a single individual -- a classmate, co-worker, team mate, even family member -- can significantly disrupt the productive flow of the entire group.  And the sweet relief you feel when that person is not there, and how much better the day transpires in their absence.  Some of you may even be thinking of your Thanksgiving family gathering, and picturing a certain Someone you wish would make other plans for the day...

My hope for this teacher is that she'll get a truly fair deal, that she won't be punished only to satisfy public opinion, and that she &amp; all school teachers will find the support they need to deal with their classroom challenges, from their administration, their school board, their parents, and their public.

Please add your comments, and especially any pertinent facts we have been missing from the news sources!

Happy Thanksgiving,
Key Lime Pie]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Wed, 26 Nov 2008 13:16:34 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Need help from parents</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2527,2527#msg-2527</link>
      <author>GilaR</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello, 
My name is Gila.
I live in Moshav Aderet, near Jerusalem, Israel.
I'm a new Mom, age 27. I'm an electronic engineer, too.
A few months ago I had my fisrt baby girl (Mazal Tov :-).

Having survived the horrors of diaper rash, I came up with an idea of a small sensor that alerts when the diaper is soiled/wet.
 
I already have a worldwide patent and a working prototype.
Trying to raise capital, I presented this issue to investors. They like the idea.

The thing is that they would like to know what PARENTS think about it.
So I decided to conduct an online SURVEY.

Moms, Dads !
I need your opinions. It's very important that they will be honest, even if they are negative.
Please take this survey. It takes only 30 seconds of your time, but it means a lot to me !
It would be wonderful if you could refer this to others by email too.

Click here to take the survey in English. 

Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.

Gila

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The sensor is very small (1 inch diameter, 1/4 inch thick).
It is SECURELY attached to any kind of diaper.

Only a parent can release it from the diaper, not the baby.

When changing diapers, the sensor is released from the wet diaper, then re-attached to the new one.
When diaper gets wet/soiled, the sensor plays a quiet melody (not to wake a sleeping baby), for 10 seconds every 5 minutes. It stops playing automatically upon releasing it from the diaper.

The sensor will not become dirty, as it is outside of the diaper.

You can set the sensitivity level at which the sensor starts alerting, to suit your diaper changing preference.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 13 Nov 2008 04:31:20 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>kids parenting workshop to help make life easier!</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2517,2517#msg-2517</link>
      <author>tiny toes inc</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Could you use some help getting your kids to do what you want? Do you wish you had more fun laughing and playing with your kids instead of discipling and negotiating? 

Then plaese join us for a parenting workshop from Tiny Toes.

This workshop will teach you how to use positive reinforcement and unique teaching philosophies to communicate more effectively with children. Understanding a few simple techniques can make your life with kids much easier. 

Imagine a fun and happy environment with your kids!

We will also talk about the importance of movement and how it is linked to learning in the classroom. Who knew crawling through a tunnel could help kids learn their abc’s?

And do miss the question &amp; answer session with pediatrician Dr. Leon Cohen. 

The workshop focuses on children from one to six years. 

November 20th, 7-9pm 
Amazing Births [Yamator &amp; Boca Raton Blvd]

register amazingbirths.com
contact Tiny Toes for more information 954.673.2630 wigglethosetoes.com]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Tue, 11 Nov 2008 11:38:24 -0500</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Very Active Toddler</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,119,2458#msg-2458</link>
      <author>Proud1MomOf1</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Glad2Bgrandma,
Well said.... its exactly what im doing to my Daugther,i don't care what people or the families used to say about how she behave,
even my husband said, we needed to take her to get diagnose,or even hire help,
but instead, Hey if she's got all these energies, i need to put it to good use,you have to give 'em things to do, you have to kept them busy,it takes time but your child will be fine,
the reward of being a patient mom is the greatest, at 3 1/2 
she can read abit, spell and so math really well, she helps  me in the kitchen everytime im cooking,she picks up all her toys and put it away, but once in a while she still get into major troubles, i kept reminding myself, HEY she's a child, recently she cut her beautiful shiney hairs i've been so patiently taking care, i thought i was gonna have a heart attacked after seeing the damaged,
then my mother reminded me, i was the same and did the same,and alot worse, hold mother's your kids is just being a kid, only they do it in very creative ways, hehe j/k, had to say that, my mother in law is watching me type,and smiling with her grand daugther  mishap,]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:37:13 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Very Active Toddler</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,119,2457#msg-2457</link>
      <author>Proud1MomOf1</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Hi, i too have a very active child she's 3 1/2 years old,and we have never taken her to a Dr to diagnose if she is ADHD/ADD,because i don't believe in medicating your child,i know and understand that it could be very frustrating for us parent's to see our precious child getting into lots of troubles, especially when you're tired and just want to relax a bit after work or when watching other kid's behave perfectly,but i found a way to keep her busy at all times, i teached her routines from the minute she wakes up,my secrets of keeping her busy,after we get out of bed and dressed for the day, i involved her in the kitchen cooking or making our breakfast, then we exercise and during exercising, we do our math and spelling(&quot;at 3 1/2 she can write,read a bit and do math&quot;), after we are done, i take her out side the back yard to run around, sweat out all that energy,take your child to the park,bowling,basketball etc etc etc,think if you have super active child,their brain are very active too, use that energy to teach your child and at the same time do it while having fun, TV's and video games are not an option to keep them in one place, they aren't learning much, and if you allow your child video games or watch tv's allow something educational,
but remember they are kids, they will still find ways to torture  you,
Cristina,,,,,,]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sat, 01 Nov 2008 14:16:12 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Safe-Haven Law Abuse?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2332,2431#msg-2431</link>
      <author>Next Step</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Thank goodness that you believe this is an &quot;abuse&quot; of the law...  That suggests that you believe it is not okay to drop off an unruly teen.  Love and committment seem to be the best antidotes for abuse and neglect.

On a different note, parents who abandon their kids often have their own issues...  It is very sad.  They believe their only option is to drop off their child- they think they are incapable of meeting the child's needs.  The super-sad aspect of this case is that there is no indication about whether or not the child or family is getting help to resolve whatever situation led to the child being abandoned.

In my belief, parents who drop off their kids do so out of extreme desperation...  It seems preferable for them to drop off their child, rather than beating their child, forcing their child to live in an abusive environment or leaving their child to live in the streets.  Unfortunately, this kind of abuse is real and on-going everywhere. Hopefully, by dropping off their child, the parents create a door into their family where professionals can come in and help them to get to the place where they really want to be...]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2008 12:36:49 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: ADD/ADHD Teen</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,188,2430#msg-2430</link>
      <author>Next Step</author>
      <description><![CDATA[What a smart cookie you have raised!  :)  

Kids with ADHD are typically overstimulated... their brain cripples their ability to distinguish the &quot;important&quot; stuff from the &quot;not important&quot; stuff that they are seeing, hearing and feeling.  Kinda like being at a loud party and hearing all the conversations at once- and being unable to focus on the conversation that you are involved in.  Interventions for these kids are designed to help increase the &quot;volume&quot; of one particular stimulus.  Meds help to drown the din of other stimulus.  In the case of music, most of the brain directs itself to pay attention to the music- leaving the remainder of the brain free to actually focus on what the child wants it to focus on- in your daughter's case, her homework. 

A homeopathic, supplemental solution to ADHD!  Brilliant!]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2008 12:24:00 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Very Active Toddler</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,119,2429#msg-2429</link>
      <author>Next Step</author>
      <description><![CDATA[A couple of thoughts...

It is unethical (and really irresponsible) to diagnose ADHD/ADD prior to age 5.  I, personally, will not make the diagnosis until the child is much older.  The child not only has to exhibit symptoms of inattention/hyperactivity, but also has to exhibit an IMPAIRMENT IN FUNCTIONING cannot perform daily tasks).  In turn, it is also unethical (in my opinion) to medicate a child under age 5; most of my colleagues who are psyhchiatrists will refuse to do it.  A child under the age of 7 is still rapidly developing; psychotropic medications can severely disturb development at that age.

I would also offer a word of warning about the therapist who made the suggestion.  He/she is trained to assess speech/language and that is VERY different from assessing mental or behavioral health issues.  Most speech/language folks that I see have no clinical training in mental or behavioral health issues. 

Finally, if your child is active at age 3 and does not like sitting for an evaluation- congratulations!  You likely have a normal, curious, active child!  If he is truly &quot;over active&quot;, this could be related to a myriad of other causes... many times, children who have difficulty expressing themselves verbally are prone to being more active in order to express their needs and wants.  I would advise you to see how the speech therapy goes, listen (with a BIG grain of salt) to what his teachers say and consult your pediatrician about concerns at the next visit.  

Best of luck!]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2008 12:15:54 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: How Can I Help?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2422,2428#msg-2428</link>
      <author>Next Step</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Thanks for the response!  I really appreciate it.

What kind of things do you look for when deciding what professional you will use?  What are some &quot;must haves&quot; when choosing a professional?  What are some &quot;red flags&quot; that immediately make you think, &quot;No. No. Choosing that person is a bad idea&quot;?]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2008 12:02:26 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: How Can I Help?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2422,2424#msg-2424</link>
      <author>mygirls</author>
      <description><![CDATA[I would probably start with my child's teacher.  When my oldest was delayed in speech, she is the one who recommended I get her evaluated.  After three years of speech therapy, she is caught up and quite the &quot;chatterbox&quot;.  

I would also speak to my pediatrician who I trust completely when it comes to the well-being of my children and perhaps my pastor.  The bottom line is that if I felt my child needed help, I would keep asking those I trust who care, know and love my children until I found the necessary resources to help.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Wed, 22 Oct 2008 18:51:06 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>How Can I Help?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2422,2422#msg-2422</link>
      <author>Next Step</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Hello...

I came across this board and found many posts offered by moms who are struggling to resolve issues regarding their children.  I thought you all would be an excellent resource for helping me to get started on my way...

I am a counselor for children, ages birth (yes, I specialize in Infant Mental Health) to adolescence.  I have worked with children and families for at least the past decade- I specialize in children and teens with behavioral problems.  I have recently started a private practice and I am trying to find a way to reach out to moms who have concerns about their children.

My question for the forum:
If you were very concerned about your child's feelings or behavior... concerned that something was wrong... where would you go for help?  Who would you trust to advise you to get professional counseling?  What would your first step be, in seeking professional help?

I appreciate any feedback that could be offered...  I have been putting my skills and education to good use for years in the public sector and I feel sure that they can also be of use in the private sector...  Thanks so much...]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Wed, 22 Oct 2008 16:16:21 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Safe-Haven Law Abuse?</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,2332,2332#msg-2332</link>
      <author>thewonkette</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Nebraska is seeing people dropping off teenagers!
What are your thoughts, as mothers, on this abuse of the safe-haven law?

http://lifeisacookie.wordpress.com/2008/10/10/thatll-teach-her/]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:33:05 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Very Active Toddler</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,119,2299#msg-2299</link>
      <author>glad2Bgrandma</author>
      <description><![CDATA[Talk to a pediatrician then talk to another pediatrician.  Most good pediatricians will tell you that children cannot and should not be evaluated for this until they are at least 6.  Most kids this age are &quot;hyperactive&quot; and seen more in boys.  They are busy and don't always know how to turn it into positive energy. They need to be kept busy to keep from getting into &quot;trouble&quot;. Medication and diagnosis are hard for a child to overcome later in life...remember they will always be labeled once they are put on medication.  Medication is not always the answer (actually hardly ever is) but seems to come very easy because some pediatricians are quick to resort to medication which is stunting their &quot;normal&quot; behavior and parents want a quick fix (look how many prescribe antibiotics for viral infections which they don't need).  Behavior modification done naturally by rewards/reprimands works alot better but takes work.
I am not saying that your child cannot &quot;possibly&quot; be ADHD but listen to the comments (all talk about boys at this age 4yrs they can't all be ADHD).  My child is now in his 30's when he started 1st grade (special ed) the teacher &quot;thought&quot; he needed to have physical therapy because he was mentally handicapped (he is not and never was physically handicapped) so she also said to mention to the therapist that he might need medication (Ritalin- was the drug of choice at this time) the therapist without even evaluating his mental state started him on ritalin. I started him on them (not wanting to go against the Doctors) for which he had crying jags and other issues. Then immediately took him off but didnt tell the school only to be constantly told by the school how well he was doing because of the meds. Later I told them he had not even been on them.  Most kids should not be medicated to behave. Keep them busy and interested in what they are doing and most will outgrow it. To medicate them they need to try different meds and different dosages because they are all individuals and not one med will work for all (so it is trial and error). Also consider this... these meds can also lead to bipolar diagnosis later in life (15yr old).
So talk to a pediatrician that you trust don't do it because it worked for johnny down the street.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Mon, 06 Oct 2008 22:22:40 -0400</pubDate>
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      <title>Re: Very Active Toddler</title>
      <link>http://chat.charmpost.com/read.php?5,119,2286#msg-2286</link>
      <author>smspc</author>
      <description><![CDATA[I too have a boy who just turned 4 and wow is he active too.  I think it might be a boy thing because my 2 girls are no where near as active as he is.  You may also want to consider changing his diet.  My girlfriend has 3 boys who are even more active than my son and she cahnged their diets to no gluten and got them off anything with the red and blue dyes and what a differrence!!!  My nephew is ADHD and has been on medication for about 3 years now and it does work well for him, you can definitely notice a difference when he doesn't take his meds.  I would be hesitant to put my child on medicine.

It seems like your boy is just being a typical 3 year old boy and you may want to wait until he gets into kindergarten because then the teacher will be able to tell a difference if it is truely a ADHD or just normal behavior.  You may also want to see what his Dr thinks too.  Its so hard to diagnose when they are young, so the best thing to do is give it a little more time unless it is really disrupting his daily life.

I don't know if you get the sunday paper, if you do check out the Parade magazine that comes in it.  I just read it and it was talking about what I mentioned above, basically saying look at the food you eat to make you feel better.  It wasn't specifically for adults or children but I think it pertains to everyone in general.]]></description>
      <category>Behavior</category>
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      <pubDate>Sun, 05 Oct 2008 11:14:12 -0400</pubDate>
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